Lingam Massage
Orgasm is not the goal of the Lingam massage
although it can be a pleasant and welcome side effect.
The goal is to massage the
Lingam, also including testicles, perineum and Sacred Spot (prostate)
externally, allowing the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not be
accustomed to. From this perspective both receiver and giver relax into the
massage.
Men need to learn to relax and
receive. Traditional sexual conditioning has the man in a doing and goal
oriented mode. The Lingam Massage allows the man to experience his
softer, more receptive side and experience pleasure from a non-traditional
perspective.
Beginning the
Massage
Have the receiver lie on his back
with pillows under his head so he can look up at his partner (giver). Place a
pillow, covered with a towel, under his hips. His legs are to be spread apart
with the knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will also
help) and his genitals clearly exposed for the massage. Before contacting the
body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Gently massage the legs, abdomen,
thighs, chest, nipples, etc., to get the receiver to relax. Remind the receiver
to breathe deeply and to sink deeper into
relaxation.
Pour a small quantity of oil on the
shaft of the Lingam and testicles. Begin gently massaging the testicles,
taking care to not cause pain in this sensitive area.
If it appears that the receiver is
going to ejaculate, back off, allowing the Lingam to soften a little
before resuming the massage. Do this several times, coming close to ejaculation,
and then backing off. It is important to remember that the goal is not orgasm in
and of itself. Men can learn the art of ejaculatory mastery and control by
coming close to ejaculation and then backing off on the stimulation. Deep
breathing is key here and will soften the urge to ejaculate. Eventually
ejaculatory mastery will allow you to make love as long as you want and you can
become multi-orgasmic without losing a drop of semen. Orgasm and ejaculation are
two different responses that you can learn to separate. The result is a much
expanded sex life.
The Sacred Spot
Ending the
Massage
When he feels complete (with the
massage), gently remove your hands cover him and keep him warm. Most
importantly, allow him to rest quietly for at least five to ten
minutes.
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